I interviewed someone a little while ago who runs a club where they do crazy events each week, like bungee-jumping and sky-diving. And he said the title quote to explain why they do it, and I absolutely cannot get it out of my head.
“Everything you want is on the other side of fear.”
But what happens when you try, and you don’t get to the other side?
You’re standing at the edge, of whatever it may be. Of passing that test, talking to that boy. Running the extra mile, raising your hand, doing the audition, speaking up. Going to the moon. Saying I love you.
Before the leap is taken off that cliff, we’re afraid. Yet we still keep telling ourselves, we can do this. Everything you want is on the other side of fear. Push through. If there is no risk, then there can’t be any reward. If the stakes aren’t high then it’s not worth doing. Because what else can we tell ourselves?
So we take the leap. And then it happens.
A 45%. A cold shoulder. Exhaustion, hesitation, doubt, silence. Rejection. Not hearing those three words back.
Ouch. We fall, we stumble, and the leap is taken off the cliff and we don’t make it over that hurdle, we don’t make it to the other side. We’re stuck on the same side, broken and dirty and torn. But not quite in two. Because we are climbing back up, hanging on for life on the footholds of the cliff.
There we find ourselves again. The wall to the other side is bigger, the gap of the cliff wider. You could stay there forever, you know. Sitting on the other side of that enormous wall.
But we don’t. We try to get to the other side again, because there is nothing else to do in this life.